10 New Years Resolutions You Shouldnt Make This Year

10 New Years Resolutions You Shouldnt Make This Year Of the 45 percent of Americans who make New Years resolutions, only eight percent see them through, according to Readers Digest. Thats partely because we tend to set unrealistic expectations for ourselves or set out to tackle too-ambiguous goals.The other part is because were simply not ready for change, even if we think we are. ResearchersJames Prochaska and Carlo DiClementehave written extensively about how people actuallymake changes, and they note that changes happen in four stages. We transcend from not even considering change, to contemplating change, to preparing for said change to springing into action. After that, we move into maintenance, which is sometimes followed by relapse. Therefore, to successfully fulfil a New Years resolution to change your life for the long haul, you ought to be inthe fourth stage and ready to maintain that change.If yourecertain youreeager to kick off the new year with a new you (who dis?), do y ourself a favor and at least reconsider these 12 resolutions.1. To quit your job prontoQuitting your job might sound enticing, but your resignation is not something youll want to rush. For one, you dont want to burn any bridges, so youll want to consider any incomplete projects and how your work would be delegated to colleagues who are likely busier than usual this time of year. Of course, if you dont care about your colleagues, you should at least care about yourself. Making the decision to quit your job is an anxiety-inducing one while it might offer you relief, you dont want to take the risk on a whim.You may want to consult this checklist of things you must do before peacing out.2. To stop procrastinatingSure this is a good goal to have, but what does this mean? How will you ensure your productivity in the new year? Rather than telling yourself that youll stop procrastinating, tell yourself that youll start making to-do lists you can check off, keeping your desk organized becaus e a clear spaceallows for a clear mind, or harnessing fear so you stop putting things off. Whatever it is you need to do to make this shift, plan to do that instead. Here are some other ways you can fix your procrastination problem.3. To find loveLove would be nice. But relationship experts, your mother and everyone whos heard your dating horror stories have or will tell you that you cant go out looking for it. Perhaps focus on loving yourself mora in the new year, and love with another person may follow suit. These quotes on loving yourself willget you started withall the feels.4. To cry lessCrying is actually healthy. For one, a study from the Netherlands suggests that it can actually improve your mood. For two, it relieves stress this was evident in a study done by William H. Frey II, Ph.D., a biochemist and director of the Psychiatry Research Laboratories at the St. Paul-Ramsey Medical Centre. His theory was that we feel better after crying because it removes chemicals that bui ld up during stress. But science aside, its important to recognize and truly feel your emotions you have them for a reason, and dismissing sadness could lead to bottled up konjunkturtief down the line.5. To meet lofty weight loss goalsLosing weight is probably the most popular New Years resolution, but experts warn that its the worst. There are too many factors at play when it comes to someones body weight, Amber Hurdle, a certified life coach who works with female entrepreneurs, told Readers Digest. Body composition can dramatically change with limited-to-no change in the actual number on the scale. Also, you may have to uncover digestive, hormonal or other health challenges, for example, before you can start seeing any results. She says that a more practical approach might be to start building healthy habits one at a time, like committing to joining a gym.6. To say I love you moreOkay, this isnt a poor resolution to make. Its just that itcouldbe better. Do tell your loved ones ho w much you appreciate them, but also show them how much you appreciate them. Resolve to make more loving gestures in the new year.7. To say yes moreSure, saying yes and welcoming spontaneity would keep life exciting. But sometimes, its important to know when to say no. For example, you dont want to be someones doormat in the new year. If you agree to all the work that comes your way for little pay, youll probably have regrets. If you really need some alone time, agreeing to go out all the time might set you back mentally. If you say yes to spontaneous vacations without considering your finances, your bank account might not thank you for it. You dont need to feel guilty for saying no. You just need to be honest with yourself about whats plausible and whats plausible perhaps another time or another way.8. To make more moneyThis is similar to the procrastination resolution. How do you plan to make that money? Perhaps you should revise your goal to be a bit more specific spend more hou rs working harder or challenge yourself by taking on loftier projects at work. But also think about if its really money that you want more of. About 65 percent of people say theyd opt for money over time, according to a study in the journalSocial Psychological and Personal Science but those who did value time over money reported more happiness and life satisfaction.9. To speak up moreWith movements like MeToo, women everywhere are vowing to speak up more, to share their stories and to shed light on issues that impact their lives. This is incredibly important. But, again, this resolution could be better. Rather than just speaking up more, pledge to listen more, too. Listening helps establish empathy and empathy helps fuel revolutions.10. To get more involvedMaybe youve been meaning to join one of your offices club sports teams, or youve been trying to make more time for your family after work. These are healthy goals to have, but dont forget that me time is critical to your health, t oo. If there simply arent enough hours in the day right now, dont add more to your plate just because its the start of a new year. You can always join the kickball league after you close the client deal. But you also may want to consider setting aside meditation time alone when that space in your schedule opens up.--AnnaMarie Houlis is a multimedia journalist and an adventure aficionado with a keen cultural curiosity and an affinity for solo travel. Shes an editor by day and a travel blogger at HerReport.org by night.